You shouldn't feel bad for the following...

THINGS YOU SHOULDN'T FEEL BAD ABOUT

I could write 100 things here but I won't, here's my main ones that are pretty easy to remember. We've all gone through periods of feeling bad about something that we really should not feel bad about. It's time to start feeling empowered about your decisions in life, stop letting the energy of others affect you in a negative way.
 Look after yourself, BE that trickle of sunshine in someones day.
Use your smile, lift and encourage others without feeling bad. Just be your damn self! :)

1. SHARING YOUR HAPPINESS

Don't ever feel that it's obnoxious to share with the world that thing that makes YOU happy!
There's so much negativity out there, all you have to do is switch on the radio or open a newspaper to see heartbreaking stories. Sharing your happy stories will make another person smile. Be the light in someones darkness!
For me, I find it positively infectious when I read how someone has changed their life and how excited they are about it.

2. CUTTING OFF NEGATIVE INFLUENCES

Don't ever feel bad for distancing yourself from characters than drain your spirit,

whether it's family members, friends, relationships or co workers.
 Over time that negative feeling will become too much to handle so distance yourself, without causing offence. Spend time with those who lift your spirit and make you smile.
A conversation between any two people should be much more than gossiping and complaining.
You don't need to complain, gossip or share negativity just to fit in with another person.
Do you feel comfortable sharing your goals and dreams with that person? If not, ask yourself why?

3. BEING PROUD OF YOUR ACHIEVEMENTS

This could be any kind of achievement, whether it's the fact you got up early to do a morning workout, maybe you won a volleyball tournament, maybe your business hit it's monthly target, maybe you passed your exams...Whatever it is, do not feel bad about celebrating the achievement!

Those who matter will be genuinely thrilled for you and will buzz off your excitement!

4. EXERCISING

I'm not so sure how this happened but some people see exercising and taking care of your body and health as a negative.
If you are currently making an effort to look after your health, don't feel bad just because someone close to you isn't motivated to do the same. You should never feel bad for taking a step towards a healthier life, don't let another complainer bring your efforts down. It's YOUR body, you look after it, whatever way you enjoy!

5. SAYING NO

In the crazy high paced world we live in, we can sometimes find ourselves overwhelmed with the sheer volume of responsibilities.

We cannot do it all, sometimes you have to say NO to an opportunity you aren't overly excited about, a new client, a family obligation or an event invite.
You cannot do it all, you can try but the feeling of empowerment is worth it when you say NO to something you didn't want to do in the first place. If you can't do it, don't do it. Look after yourself.

6. ASKING FOR WHAT YOU WANT

You want something but need to ask a person in charge? You gotta ask! 

Whether it's an extension on that work deadline, a promotion, a plate of broccoli instead of mash potato at the restaurant, some time to yourself, you really need to ask!

Don't settle for what's being handed to you if it's not what you really feel you want or need.

Ask for another option, if they say no they say no, no big deal, it won't matter in 5 years will it?

Finally and most importantly...

7. BEING YOURSELF.

When you're genuinely authentic and true to yourself in a world full of copycats it's quite normal to wonder if you're on the right path at all. You may wonder if you should change how you do something, change how you act or change how you engage with others, just like the rest of them.
DON'T. Keep being yourself, you have a purpose, you are the way you are for a reason.
Don't go out and replicate another successful personality, be your quirky wee self and you'll be naturally happy without trying, only THEN will success come to you.
 Happiness breeds success so start loving who you are as a beautiful human being and watch your life slowly transform, on your own terms.


I hope this post inspires you to take some healthy steps to happiness in your own life.

LOVE,
LISA DEE
:)
X

 

 

I CAN'T KEEP UP!

 

I am struggling to even breathe in through my nose, never mind breathe out again through my mouth, dammit I really cant breathe, now I'm overthinking my breathing and convinced I suddenly have asthma. This is so hard, everyone else makes it look so easy. Am I doing this wrong?

 OMG that Emma girl is looking at me, she must be laughing at the sweaty bumcheek marks I've left on the floor, ugh! I don't want to smile back at her, just incase.

 Damn burpees, I need to tuck this T-shirt into my bottoms, I don't want the group noticing my belly bouncing about next! Dear God my face is TOO warm, I think I'm gonna explode. Did she say sprints?! I can barely jiggle along never mind sprint! Look at the floor, look at the floor, don't make eye contact. I shouldn't have let myself get so unfit, I feel mortified. I can't keep up, I can't keep up,

I CAN'T KEEP UP!

 

Ring a bell? The thoughts that run through our heads when we first try out a new training regime.

For most of us, yes me included, the first day with a new personal trainer/coach or the first day at a bootcamp or gym class can be quite... unnerving.

 

You don't know what to expect, you've heard so many good things as well as so many scary things you really don't know what to listen to. You're cursing yourself for signing up because, well, now you're here and you think you "can't keep up".

Let me tell you something right now girl... YES, YOU CAN KEEP UP. You can keep up with yourself. You can keep up with your own personal limits and your own personal goals. You're not here to impress anyone, you're here for you and your growth towards a healthier life.

 

You promise yourself you won't come back, it's too hard, I'm too sore, I'm too slow.

You're wondering if this is the place for you, everyone else seems so at home, well, that's what you think. The next time you think that I want you to stop a minute and wonder what those other people in the room are really thinking. I can guarantee you they didn't notice your sweaty bum marks on the floor or your frizzy pineapple hair mess on top of your head. They are thinking along the same lines as you. They are ALSO a little on edge, they find it tough, they are sweating too!

Always remember, anytime you are out of your comfort zone, in all walks of life, not just a fitness scenario, you're gonna feel on edge!

It is natural to feel like you stick out like a sore thumb, you truly believe everyone is looking at you, they know you're new etc. I am here to tell you that's not true! Your mind can sometimes be your own worst enemy.

Most people in the room feel the exact same way you're feeling. Use this moment as an opportunity to talk to the girl standing beside you in the room, I'll put money on it she's currently feeling or has previously felt the same way you feel now.

 

Don't be embarrassed, you don't need to "keep up"!

You don't need to keep up with anybody at all, ever, not in my gym.

You signed up to this program to better yourself, to get healthier, fitter, leaner and happier. You didn't sign up to see if you were better at burpees than the person next to you.

 You signed up for YOU. Please remember that the next time you say "I can't keep up".

As a trainer I do not give a damn if you are the slowest sprinter in the pack, I don't judge, that's not my job. What I care about is watching you progress as the months go on, watching YOU get faster and fitter, healthier and more confident!

You may not notice a change like this, but I will.

Any trainer that makes you feel like you need to push harder to be better than another person in that room, well that's a sucky trainer in my own opinion and yes, I can have an opinion ;)

 

 I believe you should always push yourself and push your own limits and if you want to feel inspired by a fellow fit friend then that's ok but don't set out with the intention of "beating" them. YOU are your only competition and you should only feel the urge to beat your previous unhealthy self. You are here to better yourself, to be better both mentally and physically than you were yesterday. Don't give up on yourself because you think you aren't capable, you are very capable.

 

Next time you feel like quitting any fitness regime, for any reason, follow my steps.

 

Say out loud:

 

* I CAN FINISH THIS

 

Remind yourself:

 

* I HAVE BEEN THROUGH SCARIER LIFE PERIODS THAN THIS SINGLE HOUR OF EXERCISE (admit it, we all have)

 

* NOBODY IS JUDGING MY ABILITY (apart from yourself, so stop it)

 

* A VISIT TO THE DOCTOR IS €45, LET'S AVOID FUTURE VISITS (blend up that green veggie shake) :)

 

 

When you feel like giving up and you're genuinely having a really bad day, please don't go on instagram and scroll through photos of abs and peachy bums. You are setting yourself up to feel worse. Instead, pick up your favourite inspirational book and read a page or listen to a motivating video on youtube. If you have just started your fitness journey and are feeling a little off track or having an unmotivated day then scrolling through hundreds of photos of perfect abs will make you feel like you really don't fit in! Don't give in to that pressure.

This is YOUR journey, you follow it whatever way you want, as long as you feel good and feel healthy, then what else matters?

If you're currently not getting desired results and are just sticking with the same trainer out of loyalty, ask yourself again why you signed up in the first place... Yes, remember, you signed up for YOU to get results, whatever those results may be to you.

 Put yourself first, block everything else from your vision for a change, you deserve this hour of exercise. This hour hurts, it's hard, it's sweaty, it's still a bit scary but you know what, it can also be the best hour of your day.

Wanna know how to make it your best hour?  Step inside the gym and this is what you do:

Leave your work, your boss, your screaming (but beautiful) children, your needy brother, your insecurities, your failures, your heartbreaks, your daily struggles, leave them all outside the gym door. Step inside and focus on your body for an hour.

You CAN do it,  you may not be the fittest in the room but you can definitely do it to  match your own ability.

You are worth it, you deserve this hour, don't ever forget your reason for signing up.

Do it, because you can.

 

 

Love,

Lisa Dee

:) x

 

 

Stay happy, healthy and grateful.

lisadeefitness@gmail.com

Comfort Eating, The Big Taboo.

Will you hide the wrapper after you eat that cake, alone?

You know the feeling, you’re a few weeks, into a new healthy eating plan you feel on top of the whole world and then THIS happens…

One morning you wake up, it’s raining, you slept past your alarm, there’s no coffee left, NOTHING looks good on you, you’re now late for work, your boss pretty much hates you, the girl at the desk next to you is a two faced bitch, you get a hateful message from your mum, there’s no money in your account to pay your phone bill today, you just realised you skipped breakfast and you’re so hungry and damn it did you even remember to feed the dog?!!

And it’s only 1pm!!! You’re feeling fuzzled and stressed and all you want to do is pick up a pizza and 3 tubs of Ben & Jerrys (different flavours of course) and go back to bed for the night.

Sound familiar? We have all been there! A little mishap first thing in the morning and your day seems to spiral out of control with so many annoyances!

When we feel stressed out, all we want is to be comforted. This can be a hug, a smile from your other half, a few minutes on the phone with your bestie, but for many, and don’t deny this, we find that comfort in our food! “I am sooo stressed today, I NEED that large pizza meal”

That’s ok, we all need balance and we’re all human BUT the real problems begin when the guilt sets in. You binge on sugary food and then feel guilty;

 “Why can’t I stick to a plan”,

 “I am useless”,

 “Why do I even bother trying”,

 “Everyone else is able to do it but I can’t”. 

 You beat yourself up and almost joke about it a little to your friends when they ask “How’s that diet going?”, when most of the time deep down you’re really giving yourself a harder time than you’ll let on. This makes it worse. You feel alone and kinda embarrassed!

This continues over time, you start and stop different healthy eating plans,  you get into more regular cycles of binging on food and then you start hiding it. Have you ever bought something, ate it, and hid the wrappers incase someone saw you give up on yourself AGAIN?

Here's another trick, and don't feel bad when you read this, it's ok! So, you go to do your grocery shopping and buy two freshly baked chocolate donuts, for your niece, you have one niece that visits weekly, she doesn't even really like donuts but you buy them anyway, sure a wee treat won't do her any harm. You go home, she's out with her friends, so you eat one of the donuts, your mindset has changed suddenly, you're now thinking, "Ah, she won't want both of them". Your niece lands home and turns down your thoughtful little gift. What do you do? You then eat the second donut too! Didn't we already know deep down, you bought them for yourself but used your niece as a cover up?

The girl in the office that goes out and buys a box of cupcakes for everyone because she's having a bad day, when really she wants one just for herself but feels embarrassed to eat one alone, she also kinds wants to put you off your new healthy eating plan (you're looking too good in those new skinny jeans)

This may be new to some and sound a little strange but it’s a daily reality for too many girls AND guys.

I’ve been there before, I had an unhealthy connection with food, it wasn’t pretty. Looking back, I was a comfort eater from a very young age, too scared to speak up I would make my way for the biscuits, biscuits never let anyone down, those biscuits were my friends!

My worst period was from the age of 20-23. Nothing to do with self-image, it was a sheer need of comfort. One evening a few years back, directly after the gym, I bought a large chocolate cake, I ate half for dinner instead of my steak and salad and ate the rest of it the next morning instead of my eggs. Actually, I may have ate the eggs too! My mentality was, if I eat the “healthy” meals I can just add in all the crap food on top of it and just forget about it once I eat it. Not sure why this incident sticks out in my head the most, probably because I remember how disgusted I felt at the time.

If you feel you are in a viscous circle at the minute regarding your food and emotional eating then it’s time to speak up. First of all look at the people you are surrounded by, do you have kind, genuine, supportive people in your life or are you surrounded by self centered and egotistic know it alls? A lot of the time, we really just need to get rid of the weeds in our lives that make us feel crap, those weeds that make us reach out to food/alcohol and drugs for that 5 minutes of comfort that we should be getting from other sources!

Don’t let years go by. Find someone you can open up to, it can be a professional or maybe you just need a friend, or your personal trainer!

Balance is key in life, but if eating that chocolate is making you feel worse, you need to sit and have a wee think about what’s going on. Don’t be your own worst enemy, go easy on yourself.

You CAN change your lifestyle and you WILL. You may just have a few issues to sort out to get you on the right track but I promise you, you can do it. Start getting excited about all the possibilities! Nothing on this earth feels as good as feeling good about yourself and your choices. Think about it.

As always, I’m here for any comments or questions you have, thank you for reading!

Love,

Lisa Dee

 :) x

Helloooo!

Hey girls!

 

Lisa Dee now has a blog! YAY!

 

 This is just getting started so stick with me while I figure it all out :)

After many messages from you girlies on my facebook and instagram pages asking for info on various subjects; training, nutrition, travel, health care, show prep etc. I decided to make a blog!

This way I can write more about what I am up to.

I hope this blog helps you out in some way with any questions or insecurities you may have and I hope you find a sprinkle of inspiration in my posts!

 

As always, feel free to comment or message with any questions :)

 

Love,

Lisa Dee x